I work primarily with adults who are navigating complex relationship dynamics. Many of my clients are polyamorous or kink involved, though you do not need to use those labels to work with me. Some people come in on their own. Others come in with partners. Both are welcome.
You may be a good fit if you are looking for a therapist who is comfortable with nuance, direct without being harsh, and able to talk about hard or taboo topics without judgment. I tend to work best with people who want honesty, clarity, and practical tools rather than vague reassurance. If you are unsure, a consultation is the best place to start.
Yes. I offer consultations so we can talk through what you are looking for and decide whether working together makes sense. This is also a chance for you to ask questions and get a feel for how I work before committing to therapy.
That's a completely normal place to start. You don't need the right language, a diagnosis, or full certainty before reaching out. A consultation is built for exactly this, we figure it out together instead of you having to arrive with the answer already.
Polyamorous and kink aware therapy is mental health support from a therapist who understands non-monogamous relationship structures and kink or BDSM dynamics well enough that you don't have to explain or defend them before you can get to the actual problem. A kink aware therapist knows the difference between consensual kink and abuse, and won't assume your relationship structure or sexual practices are the source of whatever brought you into the room in the first place. At Connected Threads Therapy, this isn't an add on service. It's the entire practice.
Yes, completely normal. Most people feel some version of that nervousness, whether they're bringing it up with a partner or with me. You don't need to have it figured out or phrased perfectly. Starting the conversation is the hard part, and that's what this space is for.
That's completely normal, and it's exactly what individual therapy is for. A lot of the clearest work happens one on one first, before anyone else is in the room.
If the confusion is mostly happening inside you, your identity, your wants, your boundaries, individual therapy is usually the right starting point, even if a relationship is part of what's bringing it up. If you're both ready and the work is really about the two, or more, of you, relationship therapy may be the better fit. A consultation can help sort that out if you're not sure.
Most people start with weekly sessions. This provides consistency and helps us make meaningful progress. As you begin to feel more confident and your goals change, we can adjust the frequency to fit your needs.
That's more common than you'd think. You don't need to agree before you start. Part of the work is figuring out what each of you is actually seeking in that conversation, since it's often different for each partner, and building from there.
Yes, across the full range. I've worked with people just beginning to figure out how to open up in a way that feels safe, people who've been non-monogamous for a while and want to try something new, and people whose structure has always felt normal to them but who want a clinician who actually understands their lifestyle rather than one they have to educate.
No. Balancing the conversation is part of the job. If a session starts to focus more on one partner, we deliberately swing back around so it doesn't feel one sided.
Yes. I work with couples and multi partner dynamics, three or more people included.
It starts with getting specific about what each person actually needs, not assuming. From there we build boundaries and agreements together that reflect your relationship as it actually is, and we check whether they're holding up over time rather than treating them as fixed forever.
Yes. All sessions are provided via secure telehealth for clients located in Virginia and South Carolina. Virtual therapy also allows partners or multi-partner groups to join the same session from different locations—whether one person is at home, another is at work, or you're traveling within state lines.
Session rates depend on the length of time and the type of support needed.
50 minute sessions are $280
75 minute sessions are $400
90 minute sessions are $480
Longer sessions are offered selectively and discussed together ahead of time to make sure they are clinically appropriate.
No. I am a private pay practice and do not accept insurance. This allows me to work more flexibly and thoughtfully without the restrictions that often come with insurance-based care. I can provide a superbill upon request if you would like to pursue out of network reimbursement.
10 years. I’ve been working in community mental health since 2014 and in private practice since 2022.
If you are new and not sure where to begin, start with a consultation. If you are ready to move forward, you can book a session directly.
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